Stop the Past Controlling Your Future

Last time we explored the veil of limiting beliefs, the first of the “Big 4” energy blocks which prevent us from making conscious choices and reaching our potential.  Let’s take a look now at another one of those blocks – the veil of assumptions.

An assumption is a belief that is based on the premise that because something happened in the past, it is automatically going to happen again.

When you make choices based on your assumptions, you are letting the past control the future. Assumptions hold you back, because when you already “know” that something won’t work, you probably won’t even consider doing it. Even if you do attempt it, you won’t have a lot of energy for, or be engaged in, what you’re doing, since you don’t really believe it can work. When you hold on to your assumptions, you miss out on many possibilities.

Imagine this scenario: In your previous relationship, your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you. You are now in a new relationship but you are not able to fully trust this person because you are coming from the assumption that it is only a matter of time before he or she cheats on you. So what do you do? You can either, act defensively and become the detective in the relationship, or become the victim and adopt the “niceness” persona to make sure you are “enough” for him / her this time. Now, just think about the messages you are sending the other person when you act this way? The catabolic/negative energy you bring with you to the relationship will actually make the other person in fact, cheat or leave the relationship (and without you even realizing it, you have created more proof that your assumption was correct)

Here are some typical assumptions:

  • If I don’t do it myself, it won’t be done right.
  • My kids are lazy and unproductive.
  • I’m no good at interviewing.
  • No one listens to what I’m saying.

Because assumptions are primarily based on personal experience, they are internalized and emotional, and somewhat difficult to let go of. Delving deep to remove the emotion of the past experience may be necessary before moving forward.

The main question to ask when challenging an assumption is simply “Just because that happened in the past, why must it happen again?”

This month, when you just “know” that something won’t work based on your past experience, recognize your assumption for what it is, question it, and consciously choose to let it go and to take positive action.

 

 

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